My beta from Wednesday came back at 1424. Not good. It should have been at least 2300 if it had the anticipated 60% rise from the previous beta at 716. My ultrasound on Friday once again showed an empty uterus. During my hour long ultrasound search for the gestational sac we come up empty… except for a cyst with high blood flow on my left ovary. They didn’t think it was the sac but it was the only thing they saw so now we are on the verge of a possible ectopic pregnancy. However, there is no spotting or cramping and I feel fine. The doctor keeps asking me how I feel – I feel normal. Nothing has changed except the words that came out of her mouth when she said I was miscarrying again. Oh, and my anxiety has sky rocketed just waiting around for my fallopian tube to rupture and my possible chances of ever carrying our own child in my belly to disappear.
Unfortunately Dr. Kwak-Kim‘s office does not handle the resolution of a failed pregnancy so I was sent off with my ultrasound report and labwork in case I ended up in the ER over the weekend. In the meantime she wanted me to follow up with my ob-gyn for further instructions. Nothing like calling your doctor at 2:50pm and getting a message that their office closes at 3:00pm on Fridays. B*tches! It’s not even 3 yet! In a panic I called the other doc back and asked what to do who recommended I call the emergency line. The answering service lady was a complete a-hole and after I complained that it’s not even 3 yet and I KNOW they’re still in the office she patched me through. After they spoke with Dr. Kwak-Kim’s office and reviewed my records they were also worried and off we went bright and early on Saturday morning for another ultrasound. This also showed an empty uterus and the spot on my ovary was determined a cyst but something to watch. So I was sent home again to look for signs of an ectopic. They also drew blood for a beta but they use a different lab than my other doctor so the numbers aren’t comparable. Saturday’s beta was 744. Ouch. I know there’s a difference between labs but that hurts… even though I know it’s not viable there was that damn sliver of hope. They took more blood today and tomorrow I’ll hear from the doctor about next steps. In the meantime I stop my twice daily Lovenox injections, Progesterone, estrogen patches and am slowly weaning off my prednisone.
Not sure about any of your experiences but I find the entire process of finding out about your miscarriage one of the most awkward, uncomfortable and publicly demeaning experiences ever. Previous times I have had ultrasounds where the sonographer can’t tell you so they send you back to the exam room to wait (forever) for the doctor. Or they send you back to the lobby to wait. All the while there are pregnant women everywhere, babies crying, kids running around and then once you do get the news they still make you check out and validate your parking ticket when in actuality you want to run like hell. Today I went in knowing mine was not viable and sat in the lobby with an obnoxiously pregnant woman maybe 5 months who sat with her mom, husband and child talking about “baby sister” and how uncomfortable “mommy” was and that the child should behave. blah blah blah. I wanted to leave. Then there was the cutest 8 month pregnant woman with her husband and they were so adorable I wanted to hug them and tell them congratulations. I was called back for the blood draw and the nurse wouldn’t shut up about her baby. WTF! Does she not read my chart?! After she told me Saturday’s beta I wanted to run. I started to leave and the receptionist said I had to come back to “check out” which required… my name. Really! I just checked in 2 minutes ago!
So as an appropriate end to National Infertility Awareness Week (NIAW) on Friday I learned of my 4th miscarriage. Today, I am currently waiting for this pregnancy to “resolve itself”. This time they want my body to naturally resolve the pregnancy instead of doing a D&C or using medication to dissolve it. Naturally is obviously the better choice. The doctor does not want to do another D&C because I’ve had too many already (5). And the medication they use to dissolve an ectopic pregnancy (Methotrexate) is used to treat certain types of cancer and that scares me. What scares me more is the fact that there is a life inside of me no longer thriving and we don’t know where it is.
It’s lost and I’m waiting… what a perfect storm.
Next step recommended for us is IVF with PGD (Preimplantation Genetic Diagnosis).